Better You/ Challenge 9

The challenge this week………..drum roll please………

I want you to go TWO DAYS WITHOUT sugar!

I KNOW…..I KNOW!! CALM DOWN!!!!

Okay so what do I mean? I mean CRAZY noticeable sugars….like take the sugar out of your coffee, no candy bars, cokes, slushes, tea’s…… that sort of thing! I know fruit or carrots have it – I don’t care about that type of thing. I am talking about straight up noticeable bad sugars! I use to drink my coffee with sugar now I have taught myself to drink it with just some foamed milk and 1 tsp of coconut oil! I USE to LOVE candy bars now I just eat my fruit and I am happy! See what I am getting at here?

I am talking about IN YO’ FACE SUGARS!

Things like fruit don’t bother me because they are from nature! We need some sugar in our body so I feel that these are harmless. I do try to eat them with fiber, protein, or something that will slow down digestion of the sugar. 

IF you make the two days try to do 3 then 4. TRUST ME!!! YOU ARE TALKING TO THE OLD SUGAR QUEEN HERE!!!! I promise you once you eliminate it and take it out of your diet after a few weeks you won’t crave it like you use to and when you do eat it it will be too rich for you! 

GOOD LUCK!! I KNOW that if I CAN DO IT! YOU CAN DO IT!!

See you next Sunday!

thanks ucsf.edu and disquis.com for the image and gif!

Stop being a JUDGY B#@$% or A#@hole (for the guys who are reading) ha!

Have you ever noticed people say things about other people and they are doing the exact same things? Are you one of those people who believe their own way and own existence is the only way? Do you think your way is the right way and judge when someone doesn’t do exactly as you? Who is saying your way is the right way? Maybe you are in the wrong. Look around you…. how many people LIKE to be with you? Not forced to be with you but WANT to be with you. If you don’t have people contacting you besides family there is a reason. If you are having a hard time it could be you and mostly likely is you. Are you judging people? Are you saying things that are mean or people perceive as mean even if you think they aren’t?

I see it quite a bit. I have done it before and talked to myself about it. Why are you judging people or saying things about people when you my friends are doing the exact same thing? Why are you judging someone for not attending church or a community event when you have missed as well? Why are you saying someone is weak and won’t stand up for themselves when you don’t do it either? Why are you complaining about a person not being a good friend when you haven’t been such a good friend? Why are you saying someone complains too much when you complain just as much? Why are you saying someones work isn’t done as good when yours isn’t very good? Why are you saying someone is fat when you are overweight as well? Even if you aren’t doing the same things judging and saying things are still not good. Who gave you the right to judge and say mean things? Pretty sure you are not the rule of the universe.

Get my drift????

When you see yourself judging, saying or thinking things about others stop and question yourself. Do you do something similar or the exact same thing? Pretty sure you do and if you don’t then shut yourself up because you don’t need to judge either way! You haven’t lived a day in that person’s shoes whether they are Prada or Payless we all have our shit.

Focus on not being a judgy little bitch or asshole this week!

thanks pintrest, meandmysoldierman.com, momfaze.com, ontheyellowcouch.com, mom.me, raisingministers.com, indulgy.com thanks for the photo!

Better You Project/Challenge 8

How are you doing? Are you trying to do my challenges? I know they have made me feel better! I have been more positive and really focused on being a better person! That is my goal at the end of the year! I want to have worked on myself so much that by the end of the year I am a BETTER PERSON OVERALL!! To be a better person that sometimes means taking care of myself with a facial or meditation or a jog! Some of these challenges may sound silly but they are reminders to take care of ourselves mind, body, and spirit! 

Still drinking your water? I am! I average between 1/2 to 1 gallon a day! NOT everyday! I have my bad days for sure! I am getting obsessed with water now!  Still taking Vitamins? For the most part I am! Some days I accidentally miss but doing pretty good! What about raw veggies a day? Not everyday? Me neither. I am trying though! I haven’t eaten them almost everyday! Whenever you have time to squeeze in a mask please do it and don’t forget to continue to pay it forward! I haven’t done the mask every week but I am going to try to be better at that. I am still paying it forward to people I am helping! As far as a different workout I changed it up by running 3 miles outside! I haven’t really done that in FOREVER! I have just been doing 1 mile or so on the treadmill! It was nice to get back outside and to run a longer distance! Did you write your loved ones notes and yourself a list?

This week I want you to Meditate! For just 5 minutes a day! Probably the best time is with your coffee in the morning or late a night before bed! Everyday this week try to set aside 5 minutes so that you can clear your head. I promise the mediation is going to help you think straight, relax, and be able to handle what is thrown your way!

See you next Sunday!

thanks aboutmeditation.com for the images and quotes!

OH YEAH it’s FRIYAY and I’m getting to my goal slowly but surely!

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YEP THIS IS ME TODAY!

I am super excited for numerous reasons:

1. I’m alive and healthy as well as my family

2. Tonight is Charity Ball and I donated a painting of the New Grammy Museum for the live auction. I can’t wait for everyone to see it! I am one of the first to paint it and the LA Grammy Reps have seen it to approve it! Woo hoo! I’m gonna celebrate tonight! 

3. I am on my way to my “fit” body and my stomach is getting there! I have been working so hard to have an awesome stomach when Russell and I go on our beach vacay in May! The hard work is paying off I just have to keep pushing through!

What are you doing a dance about today? Not doing a dance? WHY? Find something to dance about! We are alive isn’t that something to dance about in itself?!?!?

Have a great weekend guys!

thanks berry for the gif!

Mothers are always judging other mothers on EVERYTHING!

I just can’t even…….

I ran across a post about c-sections moms and how they didn’t really give birth.

I just can’t believe people in this world! What in the heck are people thinking? 

I have judged, GUILTY! BUT I usually try to talk myself out of the judgement! The mothers group we are in sets us up for a lot of judgement passed our way. We judge each other on absolutely everything…..birth, breast or bottle, type of bottles used, strollers, car seats, blankets in the crib, taking out in public, the list goes on and on. I have been told that I haven’t experienced “real birth” and that I haven’t had “real contractions”. Were you there? Did you know my contraction levels? I had different pain from you that you didn’t have as well. Oh and because my baby came out of the light from my belly hole and not the light from my hoo-ha hole doesn’t mean he wasn’t “born”. Being born is the moment you see the light, feel the air, hear the noises, and take your first breath. Right?!?!

I had THREE C-Sections and that doesn’t make me any less of a woman than you! While we are on topic I didn’t breastfeed either (insert shock face here). There are a lot of reasons why I didn’t and I don’t have to explain all of my reasons to anyone neither do you on why you did or didn’t!  I HAD to have my c-sections they weren’t chosen. I use to think oh a c-section would be nice to not have contractions and THEN I HAD ONE! I have spoken to numerous women who have had vaginal and section deliveries both and they say each time they would much rather have a traditional birth but of course that can’t always happen. I pretty much knew I was going to end up with a c-section. My grandmother had issues with babies and delivery, my mom is the only survivor. My mom had to have three sections as well. I had a doctor tell me before I was pregnant that I was small and would probably have issues. I was induced with Beck because my BP was sky-high, lots of water retention, and I had preclampsia there was no choice. Thank goodness for Russell mentioning my legs to the doctor. I was contracting but Beck’s heart rate kept dropping dramatically. They tried to turn him (very unpleasant) and were worried he had the umbilical cord around his neck. When your doctor is saying you and the baby need this section and you pretty much knew this beforehand you go with it. I was on oxygen and was having to lay at the perfect angle to take pressure off of him. Which happened with Noah as well. When my doctor opened me up he investigated everything. I have big thick bones (thanks dad) and my spine is curved. There was no way the baby would have been able to get through and be healthy. Isn’t that the goal? To keep mom and baby safe.

I was in labor THREE times and had THREE SECTIONS. I can handle pain. Nurses have asked me before was I not feeling the contractions that I should be more in pain. I think because I had a lot of back pain with Beck and my lower back always hurt a lot growing up so I could handle it more. Noah I had more stomach pain and Grey I had both of but more stomach. I have had bad contractions before so bad that the needle going in my back for surgery (spinal block) actually felt good – yes you heard me GOOD!I remember him trying to catch me between contractions so that I could relax enough to do it and all I could think was man who felt good as he was inserting it. Then about 1 minute later I was numb, ha!  I stop taking meds when I leave the hospital and even have stopped taking at the hospital before. I have walked after every surgery as soon as I can and am allowed to. When I strolled in the last time my doctor said get everything ready this girl can handle pain and this is real. People have the misconception about c-sections… that we are weak, chose it, it is easy, and so forth.  I still have a lot of the same issues as a women who had a vaginal delivery but on top of it I had a major surgery to recover from as well. So I shouldn’t be judged for having a surgery to keep me and my baby healthy.

Why as moms do we judge other moms so much? Well she isn’t a real woman/mother because she isn’t breastfeeding, she had a c-section, she has a sitter to help her, she is on a happy pill…blah blah blah. Well maybe she was going to harm her baby if she didn’t have the section, maybe she couldn’t produce milk, maybe she has so much on her plate she needs help, maybe she is dealing with postpartum and needs something to help her so she doesn’t harm herself or her baby. Maybe she is doing the absolute best she can so lay the hell off of her! She has enough in her life without you judging her because you are “perfect”.  Instead of judging her empower her!

None of us took the easy way out vaginal or section. We both just had different birth experiences and that is okay. No need to judge either way!

Once again don’t judge. You don’t know the reason for the section, the reason for not breastfeeding, the reason for anything…and if you do know the reason.. so what ….it is none of your damn business!

thanks pinterest.com and funny-pictues-c-section.jpg for the images

Coconut Oil in Coffee? Swishing it around in your mouth? WHAT?!?!

The benefits to coconut oil are wide as well as what all you can do with it!

I have been using coconut oil for a few years but I just started back putting it in my coffee a couple of months ago! I put just a small amount – usually around 1 tsp. and it melts right in. It gives a nice creamy texture to the coffee! I still add my warmed frothed milk but that is it! I use to drink coffee with sugar and milk but I taught myself to drink with just milk and now I add some coconut oil. Why? Well why not? I need a little good fat in my diet and (TMI here) I don’t use the bathroom a lot (use to be like 2 times a week – yep imagine how bloated my stomach always looked) so it keeps me going which makes me feel better and my stomach looks better.

My mom uses it in her mouth. I have done it some as well. She puts some in let’s it melt, swishes it around and spits it out. Don’t let it go to the back of throat because all the bacteria will got to the back. (also spit it in trashcan because the oil can solidify and mess up pipes after a while. See the benefits of oil pulling below as well as some more uses etc…

Go pick some up on your next grocery store visit and see how it works for you!

* at the bottom of each pict is the place where I got the information above*

Better You Project/Challenge 7

Happy Valentines Day!

My 2 challenge(s) for you for this week are:

  1. Is to write a loved one a letter of why you love them and what some of the greatest things about them are! Why stop with one person? Why not write everyone you love and tell them that! Tell them why you are so lucky to have them in your life! It can be a text, email, old school hand-written letter by mail, a note written on the bathroom mirror, or even a torn piece of paper jotted down with something. Russell and I do little notes, emails, text, bathroom mirror notes to tell the person just how special they are! Life is CRAZY especially with 3 kids and sometimes that love is there but it just doesn’t get shown like it should! So notes help the other person to know how much you love them even though it is BANANAS at your house!

We all love to hear I Love You and we love to hear good things about ourselves! So why not? Why not share with someone what makes them so great and why they are special! 

You may try to put it off but you never know when that person’s last day is!

This week concentrate on making your loved ones feel extra special and loved! let them know just how great they are!

AND

2. Is to write yourself a list. A list of great things about yourself. What is so special about you? What is good about you? What makes you this unique and fabulous person.

I’m writing mine for all to see- just quick little notes!

Russell, You are the love of my life and my only one! I saved you (as you know) but here is one you don’t know…..you also saved me. You have lifted me up and helped me to become this woman I am today. You are my everything and I Love you.

My Boys…my three precious, wild, and fun-loving boys. I love each and every one of you with all of my heart. Nobody could ever love you as much as I do. Mothers have this love that is unconditional and no matter what you do wrong or right that love can never be taken away. I can’t wait to see your future but I am enjoying every moment of you needing me and wanting to be with me. I am enjoying the hugs, kisses, cuddles, and love while I can because before I know it you three will all be off mud-riding and hanging out with friends. I hope you always come back to me and cuddle with me on the couch even when your older. I love each one you very much and treasure each uniqueness you have.

To my Mom and Dad, I am quite lucky to have you both in my life. When you look around a lot of people weren’t lucky to have the type of love and discipline my parents gave me. They gave up everything for me and still continue to give to help me to have a wonderful life. I could never find enough words to describe how wonderful you are and how lucky I am. I Love You!

To my brothers, sister-in-laws, nephews, nieces, and other extended family, I love you all very much and I am proud of each one of you for what you have accomplished in your life so far. You are wonderful people and I hope you continue to work hard and enjoy this beautiful life you have! I Love you. 

AND lastly MYSELF:

I am an artist. I can paint and create lots of different things.

I am positive even when things get hard.

I am very spiritual and very connected to God.

I say Thank You a lot. To everyone! God, My parents, My husband…..

I try to help others and inspire them to be better and do better.

I am very loyal to my family and true friends. I may bitch but I always got their backs.

I could probably think of a few more but I think that is enough for here! 

Now, I have a lot of bad things I do as well. I gossip, I bite my nails, when I speak my brains doesn’t put the words right of what I am meaning, etc… THAT is what I am working on! I already know I have “bad” things that is why I am doing a challenge to make myself better, RIGHT? So I am not going to sit and bash myself. We aren’t perfect! I am working hard and right now I asked you to write what is good about you not what is bad! So sit down and write some good things!

I hope you participate in this challenge! Show the LOVE!

thanks ohmygodfacts.com for the pict